INTJ Female: The Unicorn Amongst The Humans
INTJ women hold one of the most flexible and interesting characters of all MBTI personality types. By making up only ~0.8% of the whole human population, they are the rarest personality type. In addition to being so rare, INTJ females also like to hide from the buzzing world by staying inside their homes, at libraries and other calm and silent places where others can’t disturb their analytical chain of thoughts. INTJ women are so hard to find that people started comparing them to unicorns and wondered if they really exist. Now let’s take a deeper look into the various dimensions of the mysterious INTJ female’s life.
1. INTJ girl childhood
The INTJ girl’s childhood might appear harsh and difficult. It seems overwhelming for a little INTJ girl to pretend to be empathetic and girly, when completely different things and subjects catch their eye.
INTJ girls, compared to other types of girls, appear more like a boy. They often aren’t interested in touchy-feely things like hugs, kisses or other things which girls mostly like. Therefore, being among boys, where these feely things aren’t so common and necessary, is a more likely option.
Because they act more like boys in childhood, they might experience bullying from other girls for not fitting into a stereotype. The lack of acceptance might encourage INTJ girls to stick to being in the company of boys more often. It might also lead to creating a base for anxiety, where a curious mind is slowly drowning. It’s not a mistake to say that INTJ girls looks too boyish for the girls and too girly for the boys. INTJ girls start to understand that they are different than most children. Trying to fit in starts to cause too many difficulties, so their best option is choosing to be alone.
Mothers, who are raising INTJ girls, might not be fully satisfied by the complex character that this little girl is holding. It is hard for an INTJ girl during childhood to meet the expectations of relatives, who expect them to act in a standard way like how all other children act. It is even worse if an INTJ girl has to share parents’ attention with another child (especially with a sister, who meets all the criteria of being girly and empathetic). In this situation, an INTJ girl might feel rejected and start to compete for parents’ attention by becoming a perfectionist and arrogant.
2. INTJ female as a teenager
Childhood is one of the most essential periods which people have not just experience and joy, but also bitterness. INTJ teenage girls often might not meet expectations of others, so they become coldhearted and use this as a weapon to stay strong and calm, despite the fact that they are usually carrying intense and complex emotions, they just decide not to show them, and it’s no wonder that others might interpret that as a lack of empathy.
Being mostly with boys can encourage INTJ teen girls to compete with boys in a later period of life. INTJ girls usually get good grades in school and this can further strengthen perfectionism and arrogance. It can lead to evaluating themselves as better than others (compared to their own created level of superior feelings).
INTJ girls might not be interested in dressing themselves like other girls and can even act differently from most girls their age. That completely complicates interactions between INTJ teen girls and other girls. As a result, it can become really hard to find anything in common with others. INTJ teenage girls are usually interested in things such as philosophy, medicine, literature or physics. That makes a really big challenge to meet the same kind of girls in their age group and maintain deep conversations, or have discussions and friendships.
How they handle difficulties in younger age periods really depends on an INTJ teenage girl’s character and self-respect. If an INTJ girl is self-confident enough, that can encourage them to make lifetime goals and successfully reach them. On the other hand, others might not handle lack of support so well in these important periods of time. They might lose interest in their beloved subjects or interests and push themselves into anxiety or even depression.
Sometimes, an INTJ teen might try to push herself too hard. For that reason, perfectionism can mostly lead to self–devaluation. Always comparing herself to others can deepen anxiety, and it can become really hard to take things with ease and just relax. A harsh reality can lead to creating an inside world and make them stuck inside their own heads where they don’t feel judged, need to meet various expectations and can imagine a future that is more sweet and promising.
3. What it’s like being an INTJ woman?
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4. INTJ female relationships
INTJ personality women are not your average housewives, they hate when people try to fit them into stereotypical women roles. INTJ women seek a fulfilling relationship with their chosen one by creating an equivalent partnership. They seek for both partners to invest into relationship development and help each other reach their life goals.
Many people, who try to get closer, need to pass a test which is secretly hidden inside the INTJ female’s head. INTJ females are used to being misunderstood and not accepted for the way they are. So, they seek deep understanding in intimate relationships. Feeling safe and accepted for the way they are, are most preferred in creating long lasting relationships. INTJ women have a preferred trait list in which appearance isn’t first place. They also prefer hiding emotions in front of people they are not so close with, so being flirty and other touchy-feely things won’t work at all. INTJ women love challenges, especially intellectual ones, so the partner has to be intellectually challenging and prove that he can create and manage to keep deep conversations. Also, they avoid drama, so arguing isn’t welcomed if it is based on emotions or lack of arguments.
If a relationship doesn’t work, they can quickly end it. INTJ women would rather choose to be alone than in a terrible relationship. They spend a lot of time in their own analytical mind and bad company is not necessary.
5. INTJ women in a workplace
INTJ women take a fairly professional approach when it comes to their work. They just want to tackle intellectually interesting work challenges and compete with the male co-workers. INTJ females seek to be evaluated for their job skills and try to climb career ladders through a fair game – without using their womanly charm.
INTJ women have absolute disregard for authority and the best way to handle them is to not even try to handle them. INTJs love their independence. If they think that a task doesn’t make any sense, they might even refuse to do it. INTJ females hate when someone tries to tell them what to do and which methods to use.
INTJ females also prefer to work in small, like-minded groups or even work alone. They just love to have freedom in their work environment and it is a big mistake from the manager’s perspective not to give it to them. INTJ females hate repetitive tasks and will seek to design a system to automate the process or make it more efficient.
Getting into colleagues’ social circle might be a challenge. INTJ women value expertise and skills over social activities and gossip. They also hate small talk and see it as a time wasting activity.
INTJ women’s confidence can be confused with arrogance, but they just try to focus on their job and leave everything unrelated to it behind. Every task must be completed perfectly, and they just don’t have time to create relationships or have friendly communication with colleagues.
6. Other INTJ female traits
INTJ female humor is dark. They prefer dark humor or other insensitive humor forms over anything else and it might look too hard to handle for more sensitive people. But in right group of people, who understand sarcastic jokes, they are called as having a really good sense of humor.
Most INTJ women don’t find children attractive and cute. While other people (especially women) are losing their minds for babies, INTJ females mostly find them disturbing, too loud and ain’t cute at all. They also don’t follow created frames of usual family and might choose to have dogs, cats or other pets instead of raising children.
Reading books is in the top of their activity list. INTJ females love to prepare themselves for various intellectually challenging discussions and simply love to learn something new. So, if you are thinking about giving a present for an INTJ woman, you just can’t go wrong with the coupons of a near bookshop.
People think they are sad. That is not true – they just love hiding emotions and serious face expression with a famous INTJ death stare is their natural look. They are just deep inside their own heads thinking about more interesting things than what you have to say.